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Cultivating Friendships and Loyalty

November 29, 2018

Cultivating Friendships and Loyalty

People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.

―Theodore Roosevelt

In this paper, we are going to take the position that, once saved, Christians become one with Christ and take on the spiritual role of being “royal priests.” As such, royal priests have the duty to offer up spiritual sacrifices.

Ye also, as lively stones, are built up a spiritual house, a holy priesthood, to offer up spiritual sacrifices, acceptable to God by Jesus Christ. (1 Peter 2:5)

Let’s consider some of the primary ways that we can offer up spiritual sacrifices in a workplace context to demonstrate our love for God and other people (co-workers) to bring praise and honor to God’s name.

Cultivating loyalties and friendships (unequally yoked) in God’s workplace environment is a significant first step in our Christian testimonies. This sends a signal that we are willing to get beyond the confines of self so we can reach out to others with a concern for their needs. We shouldn’t reach out in any self-serving or manipulative fashion. We should reach out to get to know them right where they are by finding out who they are (e.g. their interests, family background, hobbies, and the difficulties they face). This will help us to minister to them more effectively.

Theodore Roosevelt had it right in the quote at the top of this chapter. When we apply the same logic to the workplace context, we can expect that our co-workers “will let us in” as they believe that we truly care about them. They want to know that our motives are not cold, calculating, or self-serving.

In addition, the workplace relationships that we build with the opposite sex must be closely guarded. While we do not want to be unequally yoked in any fashion (male or female), we must put on the righteousness of Christ and build workplace loyalty and friendships to further the Kingdom of God.

Outside of Jesus Himself (who is the supreme example), I believe we can look to the Apostle Paul as an excellent example for building loyalty and friendships.

And the next day we touched at Sidon. And Julius courteously entreated Paul, and gave him liberty to go unto his friends to refresh himself. (Acts 27:3)

In a very short period of time (the next day), Paul was able build the relationships and loyalty necessary to be courteously treated and given liberty. The liberty given to Paul by Julius was no small gesture. Julius was a centurion with enormous responsibility. As a professional in the Roman army, he was someone who had many men under his command. His task to deliver Paul to Rome and to the emperor was of the highest magnitude. The order to deliver Paul put both he and his men’s lives at stake. Failure would have surely been met with quick judgment and death. Why then take a chance and let Paul roam free (pun fully intended) with such liberty?   

Paul understood the importance of getting involved in the lives of others. He also understood that building loyalty, trust, and friendships were keys to reaching others for the glory of the Lord.

When I think about the life of Paul, several key aspects of his Christianity come to mind.

First, he loved God with all of his heart, mind, soul, and strength.

Second, he knew the necessity of being involved in the lives of other people.

Third, he wanted to authentically care for others through as many mentoring opportunities as he could possibly find. Paul understood that investing in people by being a mentor was powerful and produced extraordinary spiritual results.

Fourth, he realized that the fellowship had to be lasting and on-going. There would be very little fruit if he was simply getting people saved, checking the box of evangelism, and moving on to the next convert. He desired to stay connected either through letters or face-to-face meetings. Once the ungodly were converted, he knew a plan would be needed for continuous communication and fellowship.  

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The ability to build relationships in the workplace is a vital ingredient of the sacrifice that we offer to the Lord. We must step outside of ourselves and begin to focus on the cares and concerns of others and their well-being. In today’s world of technology, we have no excuse. There are multiple platforms available for us to reach out and build loyalty and friendships. In turn, these online encounters will help us to build the necessary trust for face-to-face witnessing opportunities.


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